STRESS is a familiar term, but not everyone knows the definition. The simplest is a group of emotions that result when there’s a change in status quo. Not all changes are “negative” or unwanted. Some are positive and beneficial like starting a new job. Stress the internal pressure (frustration, fear, yearning) you feel to resist change and keep things the way they are.
Similar to stress is ANXIETY, which loosely defined is the fear of loss in the future. In addition to being required to adapt to a new routine, feelings of discomfort can intensify if you interpret the change as one that threatens the loss of something you hold dear. Anxious thoughts focus on potential losses. Depressed thoughts focus on losses in your past.
ANGER has a purpose and that is self-preservation. It is not an emotion but a physiologic response to fear. We feel adrenaline coursing through our bodies when angry. When we express anger, we create distance between the thing that threatens us and ourselves. Some people flee (distance), some freeze in place (a trauma response), and others choose to FIGHT (create distance through force or volume).
Common Signs of Stress
- general aches and pains
- sleeplessness
- elevated heart rate
- elevated blood pressure
- shallow breathing
- sighing
- irritability
Stress – Anxiety – Anger – Burnout
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Grief – Loss – Bereavement
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People who are chronically stressed are no fun to be around because they tend to be self-absorbed, irritable, and lacking in energy and commitment. When chronically stressed, people find it hard to concentrate, which leads to repeated mistakes, lowered self-confidence, and frequent illnesses. It leads to BURNOUT, a state of physical, spiritual and emotional exhaustion. When you do things to reduce stress, it not only helps you, but also the people in your life who benefit from a fresher, more positive you!
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